So, 2020, eh? With all of the restrictions and constrictions we’ve been experiencing this year, let’s be sure to be even more loving to ourselves than ever before. Winter is a time of going inward, of being in the deep recesses of pre-creation, the place of potential, the place of darkness, the womb of possibility – before the seeds get planted. It’s a time of dormancy, of quiet, of stillness. We reside now deep within the kidneys, the place of our essence.

This is a good time for REFLECTION

Resolutions are abrupt, sometimes harsh, often with fearful, judgmental, guilt-induced roots. Resolutions are willful, aggressive and single-minded (often setting us up for a backlash).

Reflection is based in awareness, it is open, observational, gentle, expansive and unlimited.

One of the things that we’ve learned about profound and lasting personal transformation is that the temptation to speed along and make swift, hacking changes, doesn’t stick. If you’re ready for it, the ride is longer, deeper and ultimately more rewarding.

This takes different tools. The fun part is, these tools are creative and they run counter to the speed, end-gaming and competitive energy that for so long has run rampant in our collective culture. NOW –brought to you by the big slow down of 2020– we are already somewhat naturally more slowed. This is a place for gratitude to live.

As a soothing concept for our child, we have often provided the parable of the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly. In 2019, we were the caterpillar. Currently, we are in the liminal space – the primordial goo of undoing and recreating. The liminal space is ripe with possibility, it is transformation itself. This cannot be rushed, But it can be leaned into. It’s been long, but we need a bit more time, let us not rush it as it cannot be rushed.

Often, our greatest challenge is in our “inner work.” Why do we get stuck? Why do we sabotage ourselves? Why do we hold ourselves up to such high standards? Are you your own worst critic?

If 2020 has shed a light on anything, it is that NOW is the time to heal ourselves. It’s time for us to emerge and feel powerful without shame. It’s time to stop playing small.

We may not be able to control the pandemic but we can affect personal change. The turn of the New Year is a good time to reflect, release, and dream big. It is NOT a time to feel guilty, or redouble our efforts and make resolutions (also known as more rules).

Prior to March 2020, many of us suffered from subtle levels of stress, anxiety, perfectionism and fear, much of it we could not put a name to.  Have you been able to see where your shadows are? Have you discovered new priorities?

How do we co-create personal change that is expansive and effective? How do we leap from where we are now, to where we’d like to be?

Try this simple technique to close out the old and bring in the new.

Step1 : Reflect. Take a few moments before the old year ends and the new one sweeps in and simply reflect. Grab a journal or piece of paper and take a few moments to just sit and gaze. How was your year? Yes, there are the overt traumas and challenges of the collective and personal journey this year – but do you have any silver linings?

What was really wonderful? What would you like to shed- that no longer serves you?

  • Make a heading at the top of the page and call it “Reflections on 2020”

  • Now list out “What I would love to keep”

  • Then list out “ What I am Ready to Let Go of”

 

Step 2: Dream your future open. Clear out the future by being in the present. Sit quietly for 5  to 10 minutes, relax and do the work of it. Imagine that you can shed all that doesn’t work in your life. Gather it  and simply compost it into the earth. Now… think about 2021. It’s clean, fresh, unencumbered. What do you want to place there? What do you want to occur?

  • On a NEW page start with the Heading, “Visioning and Creating 2021″

  • Be free, open, and expansive. Use what you’d love to keep and expand upon it until it feels good to you.

  • Some really enjoy the process of creating a Vision Board.

Really see it. Claim it. Draw it. Write it.  Paint it. Sing it. Drum it. Create it into being.

Step 3: Be creative and play. We are creators (you know, we make life…)  so create! You don’t have to be a formal artist… just do something to let the energy flow. What might set your heart or spirit free—even for 20 minutes?

Get into the FLOW state. Color, draw, finger paint, do an interpretive dance, make a silly hat, make something.  Seal your intentions with creative flow.  Thank yourself and go and enjoy the rest of your day.

Remember, you are the conductor of the complex melody of your life. You are a being with power beyond measure.  Use your power of reflection and awareness to create.

Have a beautiful celebration to close out 2020 and Happy New Year – welcoming in health, vitality, and possibility in 2021!